Regina Shober Gray’s diary changes tone after the onset of her husband’s fatal illness, in 1876, so what does the year 1875 sound like? Mrs. Gray is 56 years old when the year begins, and her children are almost all grown up. Her daughter Mary has already received, and rejected, at least one marriage proposal, while the boys are either in business or still studying at Harvard.
Early in the year, in the midst of a particularly terrible cold snap, Mrs. Gray recalls the winter of 1844, shortly before her marriage:
1 Beacon Hill Place, Boston, Saturday, 20 February 1875: Thirty-one years ago the English Steamer was released from Boston Harbour, by the cutting of a channel through the ice __ miles long, to liberate it, and I well remember, being then a visitor at Mr. Josiah Bradlee’s [house] in Pearl St., the excitement about it…
Mrs. Patrick Grant has a Washington’s birthday reception on Monday, in emulation of her aunt Mrs. H. G. Otis – but no one in Boston is quite competent to fill Mrs. Otis’s place in that way, I suppose. Carrie Oxnard and Mrs. Richards, also, each have an evening reception on the 22d. Mrs. Richards’s is to be a “bal poudré” and she insists on all who come being in powder & patches & rouge &c., which will thin her numbers a good deal.
Tuesday, 23 February 1875: We hear the bal poudré at Mrs. Richards’s was a failure in numbers, and especially scant of gentlemen. Boston people do not like such nonsense, and it takes a more leading person than Mrs. Cornelia Walter Richards to urge them up to it! Mrs. Grant’s [reception] from four to six was crowded but stiff – Carrie Oxnard’s small, quite pleasant & sociable.
Philadelphia, Tuesday, 13 April 1875: Since I left home, three engagements have been confided to me, which are to be kept secret for longer or shorter times – one sorrowful piece of news also, wh[ich] must leak out ere long, but about which I am not to speak. News of Mrs. Ben Wainwright’s death met me here, too.
Boston, Sunday, 14 November 1875: A painful report reaches us that little Pinkie Codman, who cannot be more than 16 or 17 years old, has run away with her father’s courier in Europe & married him. A fearful blow to [her parents] the J. Amory Codmans if true – she is their only daughter – they have one son. The child has been tied to her mother’s side always…
This last entry affords some insight into the hairdressing practices of the period:
Boston, Sunday, 10 December 1875: Last Thursday Mary [Perkins] dau. of C. C. Perkins was persuaded by young “Teddy” Wharton to cross the ice in Jamaica Pond, he having skated over it safely. It cracked – she slipped in her alarm, fell through and disappeared. Wharton went in after her and caught her by the lovely golden front hair, wh[ich] being part of the fair young head did not come off in his hand, as fraudulent back hair might have done! Morris Meredith, the other member of the party, in trying to help them went in himself involuntarily, and the situation which seems only ludicrous now was then rather tragic. [Their] shouts for help summoned a party of workmen, who made a line, got them half out, when some one’s grasp gave way, and down they went again – however they were all rescued at last, and conveyed to Pine Bank. Why they are not all laid up with rheumatism or pneumonia is one of the mysteries of youthful endurance & impunity!
 Hedwiga Regina Shober (1818–1885) was married to Dr. Francis Henry Gray 1844–80. All extracts from the Hedwiga Regina Shober Gray diary, R. Stanton Avery Special Collections.
 Josiah Bradlee (1777–1860) was the father of Mrs. Gray’s stepmother, Lucy Hall Bradlee (1806–1902), who was married to Samuel Lieberkuhn Shober 1830–47.
 Eliza Boardman Henderson (1796–1873) was married to Harrison Gray Otis 1817–27; her receptions, at her house on Mount Vernon Street, were nationally renowned.
 Caroline Walter Adams (1823?–1898), who married George Dearborn Oxnard in 1853, and her aunt Cornelia Wells Walter (1813–1898), at one time editor of the Boston Transcript; she married William Bordman Richards in 1847.
 On 6 May the diarist noted that she could finally speak of her daughter’s friend Lucy Bowditch’s engagement to Richard Stone.
 This report was incorrect. Julia Ann Sanderson Coolidge (b. 1814), who married Benjamin Greene Wainwright in 1834, died in 1882.
 Martha Catharine Codman (1858–1948). The elopement was probably an exaggerated report: Miss Codman did not marry until 1928, when she wed the singer Maxim Karolik; together they amassed a large collection of American decorative arts pieces, later donated to the Museum of Fine Arts in Boston.
 The painter John Amory Codman (1824–1886) married Martha Pickman Rogers in 1850.
 Mary Eleanor Perkins (b. 1856), daughter of Mr. and Mrs. Charles Callahan Perkins.
 Edward Robbins Wharton (1850–1928), who married Edith Newbold Jones – the novelist Edith Wharton – in 1885.
 James Morris Meredith (b. 1850), son of Mr. and Mrs. Samuel Ogden Meredith.
 The Brookline home of Mrs. Gray’s brother-in-law William Gray (1810–1892), who married Sarah Frances Loring in 1834.