Small world

My mother in high school.

Twelve years ago, my family moved back to Salem, Oregon – the city where my husband had gone to college, and where we spent the first three years of our married life together. As the movers hauled furniture into our new home, we were welcomed with fresh bread and warm greetings by our new next-door neighbors. My husband recognized Tom right away as his former economics professor, which seemed like a lovely coincidence.

At some point over the years, we discovered that Tom had attended Pomona College, which my father also attended, but their years hadn’t quite overlapped. Then last year Tom and Priscilla hosted a bon voyage party just before our sabbatical trip, inviting everyone on the email list I’d used to send our itinerary to family and neighbors. My mother recognized Tom as a high school classmate, and we thought that was another fun coincidence … though in a school with 2,200 students, that didn’t mean they’d rubbed elbows frequently.

Just as Tom and Priscilla were packing up their belongings this summer and preparing to move into a brand new house, my mother gave me a family treasure. It was the 5-year diary that Grampy gave to Grammy for their first anniversary, two weeks after my mother’s birth.  It was interesting to read about my grandparents settling into parenthood, dealing with landlords, and taking walks through the same neighborhood where our younger son recently attended college.

Then, almost exactly six months into the diary, there was this entry: “Went to H_____s. Had nice time.” I wondered whether this might be Tom’s parents. Their name is fairly unusual, and I was able to check how many folks by that name lived in Portland in 1938 through a directory available on Ancestry.com. There were only half a dozen or so listings, and only one in the same quadrant of the city where my grandparents lived.

Tom H. in 1955.

My hunch was confirmed a few pages later with this entry: “Dewey came & wrote L. a $5000 life Ins. Am so glad we’re saving.” Well, no doubt about it now! I knew Tom’s father was named Dewey, and that he had been an insurance salesman. However, I never dreamed that I’d find his family mentioned eight times in my grandmother’s diary, indicating that they socialized together for a couple of years. As I told Tom just before he and Priscilla moved away, “Looks like you and my mom were pushing one another down and grabbing each other’s rattles!”

What I didn’t think to tell him was that years later, when Grampy’s employers retired and sold their business, my grandfather was looking for a new career in his fifties. I’m not sure what all he considered doing, but what he settled on was selling life insurance … and I’m pretty sure this would never have occurred to him if he hadn’t felt well served by Tom’s dad. Kudos to him!

Pamela Athearn Filbert

About Pamela Athearn Filbert

Pamela Athearn Filbert was born in Berkeley, California, but considers herself a “native Oregonian born in exile,” since her maternal great-great-grandparents arrived via the Oregon Trail, and she herself moved to Oregon well before her second birthday. She met her husband (an actual native Oregonian whose parents lived two blocks from hers in Berkeley) in London, England. She holds a B.A. from the University of Oregon, and has worked as a newsletter and book editor in New York City and Salem, Oregon; she was most recently the college and career program coordinator at her local high school.

6 thoughts on “Small world

  1. I used my g g grandfather’s diaries from the 1860-1890’s as my inspiration to keep a weekly diary and compile it into an annual family story of events, people and opinions on the world around me. Too me, diaries tell more of a story than old photos but I collect them too!

    1. Good point there, though seeing what a person looked like, and especially how they presented themselves, is always enlightening. One can learn so much by reading an ancestor’s thoughts, adventures, feelings, etc.

    1. It was so interesting to read it, and I was sad when I came to the end. Reading Grammy’s thoughts was almost like having her back with us. We’ve missed her so much over the past fifteen years.

  2. Reading about a small world, yesterday I came across an article in our local newspaper about a Mrs. Athearn, wife of Rev. W. D. Athearn and well known in Waseca [Minnesota], who died at Townsend, Vermont, August 15, aged 35 years. Waseca Herald, dated 23 Aug 1889.

    If you need me to research into why she was “well known” in Waseca, Minnesota, let me know —-

    1. Thanks for the offer, but just this once I’ll try to keep my attention on closer relatives…though I did start down the rabbit hole just a bit on your tip!

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