American Ancestors recently shared, via social media and The Weekly Genealogist, the news that the Rev. Thomas Cary’s diary (owned by NEHGS) was mentioned in a Ben Franklin’s World podcast. His diary was among the documents Susan Clair Imbaratto consulted in writing Sarah Gray Cary from Boston to Grenada: Shifting Fortunes of an American Family, 1753–1825. Combined with the anniversary of my own visit to the Chelsea, Massachusetts house in which Sarah (Gray) Cary and her husband — Thomas’s brother Samuel — lived, this news seemed like a clear invitation to write another blog post about the family.
This time I wanted to focus on Thomas’s life as a minister, a topic very close to my heart since my husband is also a minister. While the life of an eighteenth/nineteenth-century Congregational cleric has some profound differences from that of a twentieth/twenty-first-century Episcopal priest, I’ve found many diary entries that resonate with personal experience.
In a strange coincidence, I discovered on the very day of my visit to the Bellingham-Cary House that Thomas’s maternal grandfather, the Hon. Dr. Thomas Graves, helped found the Episcopal parish of Christ Church in Boston … better known as the Old North Church. In fact, Thomas’s mother inherited the Cary house in Chelsea through the marriage of Thomas Graves to his second wife. I confess that I never imagined that sidebar to this story!
The first two years of Thomas Cary’s diary record details of his school-keeping experience, and in the third year details begin to emerge about his studies with Mr. Barnard, pastor of the First Church in Haverhill. Thomas only ever refers to his tutor and sometime-landlady as Mr. and Mrs. Barnard, but this seems oddly formal to modern readers if they understand that Edward Barnard was not only married to Sarah Cary, Thomas’s father’s half-sister, but was also a son of Sarah Martyn, sister to Thomas’s step-grandmother.
Also mentioned is Mr. Barnard of Salem; this would be the Rev. Thomas Barnard, Edward’s brother. His son Thomas Barnard Jr. was also a Salem minister and became a “lead character” in Leslie’s Retreat, an incident on 26 February 1775 that nearly became the first shot in the American Revolution.
Having made many vestments for my husband, including those for his ordination, I confess to a thrill of excitement when reading Thomas Cary’s entry for 16 December 1764: “Mr. Rawson preach’d[;] first time of wearing my Rustle gown” (the silk gown worn in church by ministers of the time). Then there are the details of Thomas’s ordination. In addition to day-by-day accounts in the course of his 1768 diary — including on 10 May “My father & the company from Charlestown came into Town” — Thomas devoted a full extra page to recording the details of his call to serve the church in Newburyport.
10 May 1768: “My father & the company from Charlestown came into Town.”
“January 25 1768 The Church met & voted to give Me a Call, 20 Members were present, 12 Voted for it, 5 ag^t it & 3 stood neuter, Febr^y the 1st The Parish met & concurred with the Churches [sic] Vote, & Voted also to give Me £750 Salary[,] the weekly Contribution, the Use of the Parsonage Lands, & to find Me a Parsonage House. Most of those who dissented in the Church now voted in favor of the Proceeding, & Seven of the Parish opposed. March 9th gave my Answer in the Negative[.] March 17th The Parish met & voted £25 as an Addition to my Salary. March 25 Accepted the Call of the First Parish in Newburyport. May 11th I was ordained[.] Mr Johnson of Newbury began with Prayer. Mr Barnard of Haverhill preached 2 Cor[inthians] 12, 15–18[.] Mr Wingate of Almsbury [Amesbury] gave the Charge[.] Mr Prentice of Charlestown gave the right hand of Fellowship. Mr Fogg of Kensington concluded with Prayers—“
I confess that I think Thomas was a little stingy in refusing the parish’s first offer, since he later accepted it with only a 3.2% salary increase. Also, the Biblical text his uncle preached on seemed so bizarre when I looked up the citation that I had to double-check it … which fortunately was possible, since it was printed by Edes and Gill and is available both online as a Google Book and in several historic reprint formats.
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I enjoyed your account, which also stirred me to climb the branches of the only Cary in my tree, Josiah, (1761-1797). He was the second spouse of an ancestor, and i hadn’t studied him. This Josiah was the son of Josiah (1729-1807), and grandson of Seth (1697-1777). These are all Biblical names, common practice at the time, but I wonder if they were related to your Thomas?
By the way, it probably was “proper” to address relatives as Mr. and Mrs. in those times.The use of first names has become acceptable only in recent years. I’m not terribly old, but in my early working years (’70s) I remember answering my phone as Mrs.; and I always called my boss Mr. Surname. My childhood friends’ parents were Mr. and Mrs. and close relatives always had a title before their first names.
The Josiahs and Seth Cary are probably VERY distantly related to Thomas Cary, in that they both descend from Carys of Bristol, England. John Cary (ancestor of Seth and the Josiahs) emigrated circa 1634 to Plymouth Colony and then became a proprietor of Bridgewater. The branch of his descendants you are connected to then settled in Connecticut.
Thomas Cary (and his uncle Edward, my ancestor) were descendants of James Cary, who emigrated five years later and settled in Charlestown, Massachusetts. That family largely stayed in Charlestown through the mid-late eighteenth century.
As for my bemusement over the formal manner in which Thomas referred to his aunt and her husband (who was also his step-first cousin once removed), he did actually refer to his father’s brothers as “Uncle Richard” and “Uncle Nathaniel” so it just seemed curious to me that he didn’t refer to “Aunt Sarah” and “Uncle Richard.” On the opposite end of the familial titles spectrum, the son of Thomas’s first cousin Lydia Cary (my 4x great-grandmother) referred to the father of his wife’s sister’s husband as “Father”…which seems a bit of a stretch!
Oops! I meant “Aunt Sarah” and “Uncle Edward.”
Thank you for your reply. I’ll have to climb higher in this tree to find the connection. Speaking of connections, you quite often mention names that I have, including now Lydia Cary. I have one born 1797, the daughter of Josiah Cary, 1761-1797; both of whom were born and died in Haddam, CT. Josiah Cary’s wife Lydia Clark, secondly married my husband’s 4th great-grandfather, Stephen Whitmore.
Stephen actually divorced his first wife — very rare at the time — Anna Clark.
I enjoyed your story! Reminds me of the very eclectic mix of clergy in my tree, including Presbyterians, Congregationalists, Baptists, Methodists, Episcopalians and Catholic priests and sisters. This family sure got around in church.
A nice story! I’m going to guess that the £25 was a kind of mutual testing, with both sides coming out feeling like they’d won. Or it might have been the church’s way of saying “We’d like to give you more, and we very much want you, but this is really all we can afford.”
I just realized that this church is now the First Religious Society of Newburyport, MA, a church where I have sung as part of a choir exchange — because an old friend who was then choir director and organist there has, with his wife, given me quite a perspective on these sorts of church negotiations. “Hey, wait, isn’t that…? Yes it is.” Their web page has a view from the choir loft which is very familiar!
The present church building dates from 1801(!) not all that long after this.